Having Hyperemesis Gravidarum (3 Times)

Having Hyperemesis Gravidarum (3 Times)

Tara Carpenter, NC., PES.

Nutrition Consultant specialized in therapeutic nutrition to heal mild to severe health conditions, esp. digestive disturbances involving yeast, bacteria, parasites, and viruses.

Originally published on March 4th 2016.

I had severe morning sickness, a.k.a. hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), with all 3 pregnancies; each one worse than before … a total of 12 weeks with my 1st, 15 with my 2nd, and a full 40 with my 3rd. Giving birth was easy compared to months on end in a nauseas torturous state. Unable to lift my head, read a book, or drink more than teaspoon of water.

My first pregnancy was while building a home in Floyd, Virginia in a community where we kept goats to milk to make chevre for the local farmers market. We fell the trees and cleared land. Then I got pregnant. 3 weeks after conception I was unable to get out of bed. We moved back to Massachusetts to be cared for by my mother. From that day until 12 weeks pregnant I vomited around the clock, a yellow liquid tasting of battery acid. I did not know what was happening. I hadn’t been pregnant before and thought was normal queasiness. I did not ask for help. I know now that morning sickness this severe affects only 0.5-2.0% of pregnant women.

The strength of a mother is like no other.

My second pregnancy was whilst living in California and a surprise. I wasn’t prepared mentally or physically and terrified to be sick with HG again. I hadn’t researched how to avoid this from happening again. I was busy being a single mom working 60+ hour weeks. I had no time to be in bed with nausea! This is what happened. For 15 weeks I was in and out of the hospital for fluids and intravenous nutrition until one day I felt her move in me. The next day was July 27th 2006. I woke 100% better, excited to enjoy my pregnancy, rub my belly, wear the clothes. That’s how HG is. One day so sick you can’t stand. Then you wake up like your old self. 

I miscarried that baby likely because I ate an undercooked hamburger that day. We were at a barbecue. I was starving. I ate whole thing. That evening I broke in fever with contractions. We went to ER where I was diagnosed with group B strep infection. The baby’s heartbeat steady one minute then no sound. Her little brain hemorrhaged from high heat in my womb. I lost consciousness at this time from a sepsis infection requiring 3 blood transfusions. She was a girl which dispelled I’d only be sick with boys.

What is grief, if not love persevering.

Miscarriage is common with HG because mom is often malnourished and dehydrated with depleted immune system. That’s what happened with my baby girl. The day I stopped being sick I rejoiced! Wanted to eat everything under the sun! I shouldn’t have eaten that undercooked hamburger being pregnant and having been so sick, still in a malnourished state. This will be forever mine to sit with. I felt happy (and hungry) to no longer feel sick; life opening before me. To feel normalcy of pregnancy, baby flutter in me.

If you’ve had HG, you know the effort to get through each day. One day at a time. The hard work to grow a baby during extreme illness. Only to lose that baby. Personally, I lost myself after my miscarriage, railing against what felt at the time to be an unfairness for such a loss.

To the world you are a mother, to your child you are the world.

The third time I got pregnant, I lived in Boston. I knew I’d get sick and didn’t care. I recently miscarried my baby girl and wanted the fullness that comes with a child growing inside. My dad had died 4 months prior in an unexpected, sudden way and the sadness I felt unbearable. The idea of laying down in a cool, dark room with myself and growing life felt right. 

Of course, I should have spent time after my miscarriage building up my immune system, putting on weight in anticipation of losing 20-30 pounds, figuring out who would care for my 4 year old. No. I did not. I dove head-first into my third pregnancy and was sick with HG for the 40 full weeks.

I never let myself get pregnant again. Though I love giving birth, the idea of being sick again is something I can’t do. Being pregnant hurt my health. I recall little of the 67 weeks in total I was sick with HG (over span of 3 pregnancies) other than being in bed or on bathroom floor praying to feel better and my babies to survive. My bones/teeth and gums suffered from the acidic vomiting. Enduring HG was my hardest feat. My heart reaches to every woman reading this with Hyperemesis Gravidarum.

A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence.

Offer support to women with severe, endless morning sickness. If you know a woman in the throes of severe morning sickness – HELP HER. Doing so can stop a condition which, left to itself, requires hospitalization. Dehydration and malnourishment can occur after 1-2 days of persistent vomiting. So, watch and notify doctor. There can be underlying physical causes for severe vomiting during pregnancy. Don’t think her vomiting is psychically based. Make her a tray of ice cubes with Pellegrino sparkling water, fresh grated lemon rind, and mint leaves.

Keeping a lemon, lime, or orange in my pocket helped tremendously — especially living in a city where the outside smells can be more intense. When I could not handle the smells around me I’d hold the fruit close to my nose. Especially great for times when you need to ride the subway! Peppermint oil dripped onto a folded up tissue is also great. Be inventive.

During my 3rd pregnancy, my mother-in-law sent me a stack of food magazines to see what food jumped out. I could look through over 10 magazines and find one food, say strawberries, I could eat and keep down. With HG for a strange reason I had to be able to envisualize and taste said food before my stomach would accept that food into my body. I have not experienced this phenomena outside of being pregnant with HG.

Miriam Erick is a senior dietitian manager, researcher-author, and nationally known perinatal morning sickness advocate. Learn more about her work with HG here.

Best suggestion I have, no matter what form of morning sickness you have, is to implement a building diet and get help with supplements before you conceive. Miriam Erick was my angel in my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy.

When I was pregnant there was no internet or online group chat. I suffered on my own with my family and friends. My baby’s dad amazing to get food I wanted. Once was a lobster roll. He drove in 5pm traffic to get 3 lobster rolls and I felt better for hours. More often though I was in a dark bedroom or on bathroom floor with no clue what food I could eat. This torture would go 2,3, 4 days without food. In my 2nd pregnancy my neighbor brought me fresh made chicken soup with lemon squeezed in. I could eat that daily yet felt bad to ask her to make it! Had to be fresh, not leftover. That soup had me feel somewhat better for near a whole day.

Now there are Facebook groups and forums of women with HG sharing what helps and commiserating together about feeling awful day after day after day after week after month. You can do this. If not, seek support.  

My bright lights at the end of the long HG tunnel.

   

May all bellies be happy!

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