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My Experience with Hyperemesis Gravidarum ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™

I had severe morning sickness, a.k.a hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), with all three of my pregnancies. It was worse with each one. 12 weeks with my first, 15 weeks with my second, and 40 weeks with my third.

Labor was NOTHING after weeks and months of the living torture where I couldn’t lift my head, read a book, or drink a teaspoon of water. I would give birth any day to avoid the endless nausea and suffering I had during pregnancy.

My first time “young and idealistic”

We were building a house and I was not about to let being pregnant stop me from hauling wood or doing all it takes to homestead. A few weeks into the pregnancy, I was smacked on my butt when I was suddenly unable to get out of bed or off the toilet. I thought I had normal morning sickness, so didn’t ask for help. Don’t most moms in their 1st trimester feel queasy and unable to eat or drink for days on end? Throw up what feels like battery acid every 5 minutes? Want to curl up and die on the bathroom floor? Now I know that the answer to all the above is NO, none of the above is “normal” and the name for such severe morning sickness is hyperemesis gravidarum. In fact, morning sickness this severe only affects 0.5-2.0% of pregnant moms. Mine lasted 12 weeks on the dot. 

The second time “goodbye baby girl”

The second time I got pregnant without trying, or wanting to be for that matter. It ‘sort of happened’. I wasn’t prepared – mentally or physically and I was terrified to get sick again. I hadn’t done my research on how to prevent HG from happening again (was a single mother, working 65+ hours/week) and was immediately scared of being sick. I was a busy mom and did not have time to lay in bed too nauseous to move. This is exactly what happened and I was hit just as hard. I lost my baby girl at 4 months in utero; one day after the HG went away.

Note: miscarriage is common with HG because mom is malnourished and dehydrated with weak immunity. That’s what happened with my baby girl. The worst part was that I miscarried her the day after my nausea disappeared, just two days after feeling her flutter inside of me. I was excited to be able to eat and be a normal pregnant woman. Excited to wake up the next day and start my life. Instead I woke up in a fever with contractions. If you have had HG, you know what an achievement it is to get through one day, let alone 16 weeks. All that hard work, day in ‘n day out and then to lose her just like that was hard.

The third time, “sick for long haul”

The third time I got pregnant, I knew I’d get sick. But, after losing my baby girl I didn’t care. I wanted to be pregnant again to fill up the empty space inside. I didn’t want to take the time to build up my immune system or put back on the weight I had lost with my baby girl. I just wanted another baby in my belly. I jumped into getting pregnant knowing how bad life would get for the next few weeks. I did get pregnant and was sicker than the first two pregnancies combined. I didn’t feel any relief until the moment I pushed my baby boy out into the world.

Never Again

I can’t let myself get pregnant again. Being pregnant destroyed my health and stole months on end of my life. I wouldn’t wish HG on my worst enemy. My childhood dream of having 4 kids is out the window, yet I’m reaching a place inside me where I am grateful for my two boys … they are enough and I worked hard to grow them ๐Ÿ˜‰

Support

I offer support by phone/email for women with severe, endless morning sickness. Please share this post. If you know a woman in the throes of severe morning sickness – HELP HER. By doing so, you can stop a condition which, left to itself, can require hospitalization. Dehydration and becoming malnourished can occur after only 1-2 days of persistent vomiting. Watch for this and notify doctor. There can be underlying physical causes for severe vomiting during pregnancy, but don’t think for a minute that her vomiting is psychically based. 

Have hope, there is light at the end of the tunnel…

No matter what form of morning sickness you get, it is smart to implement preventative lifestyle or diet changes soon as you can; even months and years before conceiving. Who knows if it will help. There is a lot on the internet these days from women sharing their experience on what has helped them. 

My three lights at the end of a long, pitch dark tunnel…

My brown-eyed boy.

Apple of my eye.

Baby girl, in my heart.

 

What I Ate During Severe Morning Sickness

10 Foods That Helped My Hyperemesis Gravidarum

Hyperemesis Gravidarum (Morning Sickness X 1,000)

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2 comments to My Experience with Hyperemesis Gravidarum ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™

  • Belen Valencia

    Morning sickness was so bad in my both pregnancies that it was killing me. I was puking and all the time was nauseating. No to morning sickness tea was the only remedy which worked with my second pregnancy and eased my sickness immediately.

  • Shirley

    Tear jerking along with the bits of humor, Tara. I remember your first pregnancy when you would ask me to please stop cooking and the way you walked like a zombie to the bathroom. In bed all day. I’d never seen anyone so sick. You’re right. Anyone with HG needs someone to help them. It is no fun. I also remember all the happiness surrounding the birth of a healthy baby boy.

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